ATLANTA, Gerogia/ CNN International / CNN.com / Health / March 30, 2011
By Madison Park, CNN
The next minute, he unravels.
Cohen, a former New Jersey taxi driver and ironworker, is convinced his family will steal his money. He talks about escaping to Israel. He ignores his grown children's pleas to take his medication -- he tells them they've been brainwashed. And he threatens his wife, Haya.
"He is starting to make Charlie Sheen look rational," said his son, Michael Cohen, about his dad's Alzheimer's disease.
Earlier this month, he went from paranoid to physically violent. An attack on Haya put Cohen in a hospital psych ward.
Sometimes, verbal rants, as in Cohen's case, escalate, leaving families in a bind. What can you do when your loved one with Alzheimer's becomes physically aggressive?
To share patient experiences, CNN Health asked the iReport community how they have dealt with the challenges of Alzheimer's. Some described being cursed, kicked, slapped and bitten by their loved ones, who cannot understand their actions because of their disease.
Alzheimer's patients are often vulnerable and fragile, but in rare cases, they can become the aggressor. About 5% to 10% of Alzheimer's patients exhibit violent behavior. It's unclear why the outbursts occur in certain patients.
"If you don't understand what's happening because your brain is not functioning, it can be scary," said Beth Kallmyer, senior director of constituent services at Alzheimer's Association. "It's normal human behavior. You might act out, become agitated, or violent if you don't know what's going on."
* Families struggle to balance their desire to care for patient versus their safety
* 5% to 10% of Alzheimer's patients become violent
* iReporters share tips: staying calm and patient, and finding support groups
* Alzheimer's Disease
* Brain and Nerve Health
* Geriatric Medicine
* Alzheimer's Association
Before the Alzheimer's disease, Sam Cohen had never struck or hurt his family and his wife, Haya.
Earlier this month, Cohen, who got an Alzheimer's disease diagnosis in 2010, got into a heated argument with his wife. He snatched a pot from the kitchen and smashed the glass of water his wife had been holding. The glass shards cut her hands and she called 911.
"We're at a loss," his son said. His father had never before behaved in such a way.
"It's like the 'Invasion of the Body Snatchers,'" said the younger Cohen, who submitted an iReport about his family's struggles. "It looks like Dad, sounds like Dad, but it's not Dad."
His mother continues to be his primary caregiver, but is "very nervous just about being around him," Cohen said.
While the younger Cohen is also anxious about his father's behavior, the family agreed. "We don't want to just warehouse him."
"We feel pretty alone and we don't know what to do," Cohen said. "The hard thing is getting my mom to heed the advice of experts -- even though he got violent with her -- she doesn't really take advice from experts. So nothing's being done."
Caregivers are often overwhelmed and being on call round-the-clock leaves their patience in tatters. They may deny the problem, although aggressive behavior often reoccurs.
The Chart: Alzheimer's caregivers suffer as well
In 2008, a 74-year-old Kentucky woman with Alzheimer's shot her daughter-in-law with a gun hidden in the home. A Connecticut woman was fatally beaten with a hammer by her 85-year-old husband, who had Alzheimer's.
The violent behavior leaves caregivers conflicted about their own safety.
It was a struggle for Roxanna Zamora, who takes care of her 81-year-old mother, Peggy Zamora, at their Virginia home.
Starting in 2008, Zamora who has Alzheimer's, would curse and berate hired caregivers, hurl objects at them and lock them out of the house. Every day, she would kick, bite or punch whenever her daughter and son-in-law, Jack Riegel, tried to help her undress or use the restroom.
"She understood that this was total loss of dignity," said Riegel, who submitted several iReports. "She had no control over it. I think the problem was she understood enough and had no way to lash out except physically."
They would dodge her blows. They kept objects out of reach so she couldn't throw them. They hid all the knives in the house.
"Of course it was pretty disturbing," said her daughter. "It was hard to feel close to her, because she was so combative and mean sometimes. You just have to keep remembering it is a disease."
They noticed her striking her beloved dog, Angel, with enough ferocity to knock the bichon frise over. Her violent period lasted almost 18 months. They had to keep an extra eye on the pets to make sure it didn't happen again.
Earlier in her life, Zamora had been an adventurous woman who had become a licensed pilot in her teenage years and raised five kids in El Salvador. She trotted the globe, visiting more than 50 countries.
Now, she could barely navigate her house.
Zamora would wake up in the night sobbing, insisting that a little girl had just been dragged into a barn and killed. The stories grew more elaborate and horrifying, she sometimes was inconsolable.
Those symptoms eased after her neurologist prescribed antidepressants.
Today, Zamora is seems to be more peaceful. The challenges of Alzheimer's never wane,.....
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